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your personality type: ENFJ

You are highly attuned to the emotions, needs and motivations of others. You want to help others fulfill their potential. Responsive to praise and criticism, you can provide inspiring leadership.

2% 29% 71%

life's smooth-talking persuaders




The natural media stars

ENFJs radiate a natural charisma. The media is populated successful ENFJs. Of out genuine concern they will work tirelessly on behalf of others.

Serving humanity

ENFJs are usually guided by an idealistic vision of what they believe is possible for people. More often than not, humanity is better off as a result.

The ENFJ: a quick summary

SEES SELF: as a modest, hard-working optimist, but often seeing others more clearly than they see themselves.

OVERRIDING NEED: to be treated by others as never less than an equal.

IRRITATED BY: rudeness, cynics and pessimists.

STRENGTHS: provides leadership and decisiveness when working with others and groups, highly articulate with excellent social skills.


SEEN BY OTHERS: as friendly, open, nurturing – but not the pushover they may first think.

DECIDES by what seems right for people in the long term, they may want to tie up the loose ends too quickly.

IRRITATES OTHERS: by trying to rescue people unnecessarily, being bossy, dramatic, over-trusting, socialising too much.

CHALLENGES: may over-idealise others and neglect self, be oversensitive to indifference, put socialising ahead of necessary tasks.

The ENFJ is also known as The Giver, The Teacher or The Envisioner Mentor.

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ENFJs are idealist organisers, driven to implement their vision of what is best for humanity and they often act as catalysts for human growth. ENFJs like to be liked and are very sensitive to feedback, both positive and negative. They take criticism quite personally. They expect the best not just from themselves, but from others as well, and tend to idealise relationships. ENFJs often play host or hostess, energetically engaging everyone in the group and making sure that a good time is had by all. More than other extroverted types, they need time alone, away from the demands of serving and caring for others.

ENFJs: careers, hobbies and examples

LIKELY CAREERS: Roles in education, human resources, travel, maketing and politics – ENFJs operate to the fullest potential when alongside hardworking people who enjoy life and live to their own values.

LIKELY REAL-LIFE ENFJs: Ben Affleck, Ben Stiller, Brenda Vaccaro, Johnny Depp, Kirstie Alley, Oprah Winfrey, Mikhail Gorbachev, Pete Sampras, Dr. Phil McGraw, Randy Quaid, Tommy Lee Jones.

LIKELY HOBBIES: Popular leisure pursuits include organising social events, reading, the arts, museums, storytelling, listening to music, writing, and gourmet cooking.

LIKELY FICTIONAL ENFJs: Frasier Crane (Fraser), Faye Valentine (Cowboy Bebop), Jules Winnfield (Pulp Fiction).

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  • ENFJs are lively and enthusiastic facilitators who apply warmth and vision to helping people and meeting their needs. They are aware of people's aspirations and develop plans of action to make those aspirations into reality. They like organisation and closure. They are at their best facilitating situations that require interpersonal sensitivity. ENFJs are tolerant and appreciative of others, seeking involvement with them in life's tasks. They are able communicators who are liberal in showing appreciation for others.
    LifeTypes: Understand Yourself and Make the Most of Who You Are
    Sandra Krebs Hirsh and Jean Kummerow
  • LifeTypes is a book about you. Authors and MBTI experts Hirsh and Kummerow show you how to know your strengths and tendencies, overcome your weaknesses, and understand the people in your life better. LifeTypes is book designed to help you know and accept yourself ... to let your true self guide you in everything you do.

    "I loved this book. I totally recognised myself."

    "You will learn an enormous amount about yourself and everyone in your life."

    "The book showed me how to embrace my weaknesses as well as my strengths."

    "I'm a psychologist and this may be the most useful book I've ever found."

  • ENFJs are outstanding group leaders. They take for granted that they will be followed. And, more often than not, people do, because of the ENFJ's unusual charisma. At times, however, other people's demands for nurture and support can overwhelm ENFJs, who may be unable to turn away from these demands even when they become unreasonable. ENFJs can over-identify with others and pick up their burdens as if they were their own. ENFJs are usually popular wherever they are and whatever the situation whatever the situation.
    Please Understand Me II: Temperament, Character, Intelligence
    Dr David Keirsey
  • Please Understand Me is a book to share with your partner, family members and friends. With nearly two million copies sold, Dr Keirsey's book has a central message: we are fundamentally different from each other, and we would all do well to appreciate our differences and give up trying to change others into copies of ourselves.

    "Eye opening results. My husband was astounded at how many times the book hit the nail on the head. I now understand why he can't have a logical conversation!!"

    "If you are truly interested in better understanding the person you are, this book is a MUST HAVE!"

    "Life-altering. I finally understood why I do what I do, why I am who I am."

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    References: The Myers & Briggs Foundation, British Association for Psychological Type, Australian Association for Psychological Type, The Personality Page (BSM Consulting), Molly Owens (Personality Desk), Wikipedia, Murray State University, Profound Knowledge Products, My Personality, Personality Page, TypeLogic and David Markley. Also various works by: Renee Baron, Linda V. Berens and Dario Nardi, David Keirsey, and Isabel Briggs Myers.

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