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your personality type: INFJ

You seek meaning and connection in ideas, relationships and material possessions. You want to understand what motivates people and are insightful about others. You are organised in following your path.

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an inspiration to others




The natural daydreamers

The INFJ can easily spend an entire day just dreaming and envisioning. To be allowed to do that – and to encourage others to do the same – is what life is all about for the INFJ.

The mystic minority

INFJs recognise that they are part of a tiny minorty, and that their mind is the gateway to the world. INFJs trust their insights into the core meaning of everything and everyone.

INFJs: a quick summary

SEES SELF: as a deep-thinker in love with new ideas and insights, but somewhat detached from others.

OVERRIDING NEED: to understand the complexity of people and life.

IRRITATED BY: hypocrisy, limits on personal freedom, impersonal details and mundane tasks.

STRENGTHS: provides future-oriented insights that inspire others, follows through on commitments with integrity and consistency.


SEEN BY OTHERS: as somebody who is creative, insighful, stubborn, and hard to get to know.

DECIDES through private pondering, may make up mind too quickly and then worry endlessly.

IRRITATES OTHERS: by neglecting details, getting over-emotional, going off at unrealistic tangents, using overly complex language.

CHALLENGES: may take criticism personally, blurt out feelings unwisely, withdraw socially for long periods, succumb to addictive disorders.

The INFJ is also known as The Counsellor, The Healer or The Foreseer Developer.

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INFJs are creative nurturers with a strong sense of personal integrity, have strong faith in their ability to read people, and a drive to help others with original solutions to their personal challenges. INFJs are guided by firm principles and often have a vision of a happier and more ideal future. However, they are not content to just have ideas; they are motivated and persistent in making their vision into reality. INFJs want a meaningful life and deep connections with other people. They do not tend to share themselves freely but appreciate emotional intimacy with a select, trusted few.

INFJs: careers, hobbies and examples

LIKELY CAREERS: Roles in education, communication, counselling, the arts, science and enginering – anything involves exploring new ideas, interacting with people on a one-to-one basis, and leading rather than following.

LIKELY REAL-LIFE INFJs: Chaucer, Robert Burns, Martin Luther King, Shirley MacLaine, Tom Selleck, Billy Crystal, Garry Trudeau, Nelson Mandela, Mel Gibson, Carrie Fisher, Nicole Kidman, Jerry Seinfeld, Tori May.

LIKELY HOBBIES: INFJs don't get out much, except perhaps to intellectually stimulating environments such as the bridge club. Other pursuits might include model building, the arts, current affairs and reading.

LIKELY FICTIONAL INFJs : Amelie Poulain (Amelie), Albus Dumbledore (Harry Potter), Luke Skywalker (Star Wars), Jason Bourne (The Bourne Identity), Atticus Finch (To Kill a Mockingbird).

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  • INFJs are future-oriented, and direct their insight and inspiration toward the understanding of themselves and thereby human nature. Their work mirrors their integrity, and it needs to reflect their inner ideals. Solitude and an opportunity to concentrate thoroughly on what counts most is important to them. INFJs prefer to exert their influence quietly. They have deeply felt compassion, and they desire harmony with others. INFJs understand the complexities existing within people and among them. They are at their best concentrating on their ideas, ideals, and inspirations.
    LifeTypes: Understand Yourself and Make the Most of Who You Are
    Sandra Krebs Hirsh and Jean Kummerow
  • LifeTypes is a book about you. Authors and MBTI experts Hirsh and Kummerow show you how to to know your strengths and tendencies, overcome your weaknesses, and understand the people in your life better. LifeTypes is book designed to help you know and accept yourself ... to let your true self guide you in everything you do.

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    "You will learn an enormous amount about yourself and everyone in your life."

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  • INFJs focus on possibilities, think in terms of values, come easily to decisions, and have unusually strong drive to contribute to the welfare of others. INFJs have an unusually rich inner life, but they tend not to share their reactions except with those they trust. INFJs can be hurt easily by others and find conflict disagreeable and destructive, which is why they tend to be private, reserved people who are hard to get to know. INFJs have vivid imaginations and creative capacities. Their language is often elegant and complex, containing an unusual degree of imagery, and they are masters of the metaphor.
    Please Understand Me II: Temperament, Character, Intelligence
    Dr David Keirsey
  • Please Understand Me is a book to share with your partner, family members and friends. With nearly two million copies sold, Dr Keirsey's book has a central message: we are fundamentally different from each other, and we would all do well to appreciate our differences and give up trying to change others into copies of ourselves.

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    "Life-altering. I finally understood why I do what I do, why I am who I am."

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    References: The Myers & Briggs Foundation, British Association for Psychological Type, Australian Association for Psychological Type, The Personality Page (BSM Consulting), Molly Owens (Personality Desk), Wikipedia, Murray State University, Profound Knowledge Products, My Personality, Personality Page, TypeLogic and David Markley. Also various works by: Renee Baron, Linda V. Berens and Dario Nardi, David Keirsey, and Isabel Briggs Myers.

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