LOVE IS: Finding someone with whom they can share a faithful, loyal and affectionate attachment.
FALLS IN LOVE: Quickly and madly. ENTPs are more likely to fall head over heels in love than other personality types.
FALLS OUT OF LOVE: May be slow to leave a bad relationship and may shoulder the blame that the relationship did not work out.
INTIMACY: Sees intimacy as an opportunity to express love and caring. ENFJs are likely to be considerate and skilled lovers.
COMMITMENT: Seeks a lifelong, commited relationship. ENFJs approach their intimate relationships quite seriously.
MOST SATISFIED WITH: A partner who appreciates their compassion and support, and who makes an effort to understand their deep feelings and values.
The ENFJ is helpful and enthusiastically supportive. ENFJ partners want harmony above all else, sometimes at the expense of their own needs. They are very sensitive to criticism and can become highly emotional and even punishing when their feelings are hurt. However, they have great insight about people, emotions and motivations; they are often able to put this talent to use in resolving things.
The ideal mate for an ENFJ appreciates their compassion, support, and dedication to helping others, and makes an effort to understand the ENFJ's feelings and values.
Fun to be with a lively sense of humour
Dramatic, energetic, optimistic, inspirational and affirming
Perceptive about other's thoughts and feelings
Driven to meet other's needs, strives for 'win-win' situations, and loyal and committed.
Good financial skills.
Tendency to be smotheringly over-protective, controling and even manipulative
Sometimes unaware of social appropriateness or norms
Extremely sensitive to conflict which they tend to avoid at all costs
May not pay enough attention to their own needs.
When he met his wife, he threw himself in front of her car so he could ask her on a date. He says that he knew the first time they dated that she was 'the one'. Almost every day, he leaves her a note about something different he loves about her. Although both he and his wife work hard to take care of their family including their four daughters, his wife says that he actually sacrifices more. He's very protective and fears many things that could harm his girls.
She was fairly popular in high school and had her pick of young men. Later, she continued to find it easy to find dates. Her real problem was that she just couldn't find what she was looking for. She joked that she was like Goldilocks. Bethany finally realised that she was holding onto an ideal that no man could match.
She began dating an old friend and discovered that a relationship doesn't have to be perfect to be satisfying and fulfilling.
Male and female ENFJ relationship portraits from Please Understand Me: Temperament, Character, Intelligence by Dr David Keirsey
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References: Murray State University, Profound Knowledge Products, My Personality, Personality Desk, Personality Page and David Markley. Also various works by: Paul Tieger and Barbara Barron-Tieger, Otto Kroeger and Janet M. Thuesen, Florence Littauer, Alexander Avila and Naomi and Alan Quenk.