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Behind your mild-mannered exterior, INFP, lies a highly passionate core of feelings and values. Gaining your attention and love is like accessing a primal force, it is honest, unqualified and nearly boundless – with the right partner knows how to nurture it.






The INFP mate

A warm, loyal and romantically-minded partner who seeks a loving
and committed relationship of deeply-felt, sincere love.

A quick summary of the INFP as a mate

LOVE IS: The quest for an affirming, proud and affectionate love match that will stand the test of time.

FALLS IN LOVE: Romantically. INFPs make the health of their relationships central in their lives.

FALLS OUT OF LOVE: May find it difficult to accept the end of a relationship. Are likely to blame themselves for its failure.

INTIMACY: An expression of deep-seated love and affection. May value their mate's satisfaction above their own.

COMMITMENT: Seeks a lifelong, commited relationship. INFPs feel a tremendous loyalty to their relationship.

MOST SATISFIED WITH: A partner who is committed, supportive, patient and loving.

To win the heart of an INFP, keep things warm, personal, and conflict-free. Be considerate of their need to spend quiet, intimate time with you.
LoveTypes – Alexander Avila

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The INFP is nurturing, empathic and loyal. INFPs select their lovers based on a strong bond and common values. They tend to be open-minded and accepting of another's behaviour so long as their core values are not violated. Close and harmonious relationships are important to INFPs, although they also need a lot of independent time to think and reflect. They often keep negative reactions to themselves because they are reluctant to engage in confrontation.
      INFPs value a partner who is committed, supportive, patient and loving.

The INFP in Relationships: Strengths and Challenges

Deep capacity for love and caring, and sensitive and perceptive about other's are feeling

Loyal and committed, and driven to meet other's needs

Flexible and likely to recognise and appreciate other's need for space

Strives for 'win-win' situations

Nurturing, supportive and encouraging.

Extreme dislike of conflict or criticism, and strongly motivated by wish to avoid hurting or upsetting others

Strong need to receive praise and positive affirmation

Perfectionistic tendencies may cause them to not give themselves enough credit.

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Julius is a male INFP

In high school, his closest friends were girls. He and his friends were forever finding a cause, such as a homeless family or students' rights. They worked hard to right the wrongs they found. His wife says she was drawn to his activism, his caring for the oppressed and the environment. She jokes that they have their roles reversed. She says she's logical, stable, and hard-headed while he is romantic, moody, and compassionate.

Isabel is a female INFP

Isabel is an Idealist Healer (INFP). She doesn't really enjoy playing the field. That caused her too many heartaches. In college, her boyfriend was one of the most sought after good-looking guys on campus. However, he was shallow, inconsiderate, and straying. She stayed with him too long, hoping he would finally wake up to what he had in her. Later she started dating a man with whom she could laugh. She admired his intellectual capacity. He suggested that they live together. She said she'd live with him after marriage. They are now engaged..

Male and female INFP relationship portraits from Please Understand Me: Temperament, Character, Intelligence by Dr David Keirsey

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  • For the INFP, love is a very deep commitment, and one that is not easily attained. They have ideals, and therefore reality may be carefully scrutinized.
          With their ideal firmly envisioned, the first date with that special person is carefully planned and prepared for, and often every aesthetic thing is taken care of. The flowers are in place, the right wine is ordered, and the proper meal is prepared. INFPs may have difficulty sharing their feelings about others ...
  • They keep so many of those feelings inside that they may forget to tell their partner how much they love and appreciate them. They also need reminders of their partner's love.
           When things go wrong in a relationship, the INFP takes it to heart but does not readily discuss it with others. They may not be willing to communicate to let others know how they are feeling. When scorned, they are very hurt and may overreact in an almost maudlin way.
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    References: Murray State University, Profound Knowledge Products, My Personality, Personality Desk, Personality Page and David Markley. Also various works by: Paul Tieger and Barbara Barron-Tieger, Otto Kroeger and Janet M. Thuesen, Florence Littauer, Alexander Avila and Naomi and Alan Quenk.

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