LOVE IS: The quest for an affirming, proud and affectionate love match that will stand the test of time.
FALLS IN LOVE: Romantically. INFPs make the health of their relationships central in their lives.
FALLS OUT OF LOVE: May find it difficult to accept the end of a relationship. Are likely to blame themselves for its failure.
INTIMACY: An expression of deep-seated love and affection. May value their mate's satisfaction above their own.
COMMITMENT: Seeks a lifelong, commited relationship. INFPs feel a tremendous loyalty to their relationship.
MOST SATISFIED WITH: A partner who is committed, supportive, patient and loving.
The INFP is nurturing, empathic and loyal. INFPs select their lovers based on a strong bond and common values. They tend to be open-minded and accepting of another's behaviour so long as their core values are not violated. Close and harmonious relationships are important to INFPs, although they also need a lot of independent time to think and reflect. They often keep negative reactions to themselves because they are reluctant to engage in confrontation.
INFPs value a partner who is committed, supportive, patient and loving.
Deep capacity for love and caring, and sensitive and perceptive about other's are feeling
Loyal and committed, and driven to meet other's needs
Flexible and likely to recognise and appreciate other's need for space
Strives for 'win-win' situations
Nurturing, supportive and encouraging.
Extreme dislike of conflict or criticism, and strongly motivated by wish to avoid hurting or upsetting others
Strong need to receive praise and positive affirmation
Perfectionistic tendencies may cause them to not give themselves enough credit.
In high school, his closest friends were girls. He and his friends were forever finding a cause, such as a homeless family or students' rights. They worked hard to right the wrongs they found. His wife says she was drawn to his activism, his caring for the oppressed and the environment. She jokes that they have their roles reversed. She says she's logical, stable, and hard-headed while he is romantic, moody, and compassionate.
Isabel is an Idealist Healer (INFP). She doesn't really enjoy playing the field. That caused her too many heartaches. In college, her boyfriend was one of the most sought after good-looking guys on campus. However, he was shallow, inconsiderate, and straying. She stayed with him too long, hoping he would finally wake up to what he had in her. Later she started dating a man with whom she could laugh. She admired his intellectual capacity. He suggested that they live together. She said she'd live with him after marriage. They are now engaged..
Male and female INFP relationship portraits from Please Understand Me: Temperament, Character, Intelligence by Dr David Keirsey
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References: Murray State University, Profound Knowledge Products, My Personality, Personality Desk, Personality Page and David Markley. Also various works by: Paul Tieger and Barbara Barron-Tieger, Otto Kroeger and Janet M. Thuesen, Florence Littauer, Alexander Avila and Naomi and Alan Quenk.