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Your perfectionist streak seek a positive, healthy relationship, INTJ. You are generally highly intelligent, capable, and a good listener. You have an inventive and playful streak, and will bring a lot of depth, creativity, intensity and insight to your relationship.

 

 

 

 

 

The INTJ mate

Seeks a positive, healthy relationship. Although the INTJ may not show
emotion easily, they make a creative and devoted partner.

A quick summary of the INTJ as a mate

LOVE IS: Finding someone to share their vision of the world, their path through life, making each day better in every way than the last.

FALLS IN LOVE: With their head first. INTJs bring a lot of depth, creativity and intensity and insight to their realtionships.

FALLS OUT OF LOVE: If they have decided it is the right thing to do, INTJs are able to leave a relationship when it's over.

INTIMACY: Their natural creativity and intensity can shine through in the INTJ's sexual life. They may need to be more verbally expressive with their partner.

COMMITMENT: Seeks a lifelong, commited relationship. By nature INTJs are 'improvers' always keen to make their relationships better.

MOST SATISFIED WITH: A partner who allows them the independence to achieve their goals, and one who appreciates their ability to offer creative solutions to problems.

To win the heart of an INTJ, allow your INTJ to display their knowledge and competence. Show you are an expert some off-beat subject.
LoveTypes – Alexander Avila

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The INTJ is loyal but independent. INTJs can be almost scientific in choosing a mate and make devoted partners once they have found a match that fits their rigorous list of requirements. However, they often do not see the need for affection or niceties, and their partners may find them difficult to read. INTJs find the process of discussing emotions much too messy and disorganised.
       INTJs value a partner that allows them the independence to achieve their goals, and one who appreciates their efficacy, insight and ability to offer creative solutions to problems.

The INTJ in relationships: strengths and challenges

Take relationships and commitments seriously

Usually self-confident and not threatened by conflict or criticism

Good listener

Generally extremely intelligent and capable

Interested in 'optimising' their relationship.

May sometimes rush into relationships

Not naturally in tune with others feelings or good at expressing feelings and affections

May tend to respond to conflict with logic and reason, rather than the desired emotional support

May tend to hold back part of themselves.

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Hamid is a male INTJ

As a teen, he was slow to mature. He was interested in girls, but was very awkward around them. He also felt that most girls were just plain silly, so he did not date. By his senior year in college, he was actively looking for a mate but wasn't quite sure how to go about it. One day he happened to strike up a conversation with a young woman he'd known slightly. They immediately hit it off, covering topics ranging from the inane (comic strips) to the sublime (the origin of life). They married a year later. Hamid feels very relieved to have successfully cleared this life hurdle.

Pat is a female INTJ INTJ

In high school, she watched others flirt and felt a combination of envy and disgust. In college, Pat found some dates in her upper level classes and professional organizations. Now she has a steady boyfriend. They enjoy long technical and philosophical talks and cultural experiences. They have talked of marriage, but, at this point, they're too involved in their careers.

Male and female INTJ relationship portraits from Please Understand Me: Temperament, Character, Intelligence by Dr David Keirsey

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  • For INTJs, love means including someone in their vision of the world. INTJ men tend to be attracted to partners who enjoy living their lives with and outward vitality and zest. Perhaps it is to compensate for their internal, visionary focus that they often find partners who are more outgoing to help the INTJ deal with the day-to-day world. INTJ women, however, may seek someone more like themselves.
          INTJs tend to have a model in mind of how their relationship ought to be. This is less a romantic vision than it is and idea that relates to how the relationship functions in a unique or special way. They tend to withhold their deep feelings and affections from the public and sometimes even from the object of their affections ...
  • They can be intensely loyal and caring, even though this is not always expressed in words. INTJs can be generous with their gifts if the gift fits their vision of what ought to be appreciated by their partner.
          When scorned, INTJs retreat to their own world and may share none of their feelings with others. They may assume that there is a right way for a relationship to end and look for that. They act on the outside as if nothing has happened to them when indeed much has. They may lash out with criticisms of their former loved ones. It may take them a while to recover.
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    References: Murray State University, Profound Knowledge Products, My Personality, Personality Desk, Personality Page and David Markley. Also various works by: Paul Tieger and Barbara Barron-Tieger, Otto Kroeger and Janet M. Thuesen, Florence Littauer, Alexander Avila and Naomi and Alan Quenk.

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