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Dependable and unwavering, you bring a natural desire for cooperation to your romantic relationship, ISFJ. You are likely be the 'worrier' in the relationship. You show love to your mate by doing practical things and by saying 'I love you'.

 

 

 

 

 

The ISFJ mate

A loving and faithful partner who will make the comfort of their mate
and family their number one priority in life.

A quick summary of the ISFJ as a mate

LOVE IS: Finding a mate with whom they can create a home and found a family.

FALLS IN LOVE: Intensely. The ISFJ will often make their relationship with their partner the first priority in their life.

FALLS OUT OF LOVE: May have difficulty leaving a bad relationship and moving on with their life afterwards.

INTIMACY: A way of strengthening and deeping the relationship bond. The ISFJ will deeply value their partner's responding affirmations.

COMMITMENT: Seeks a lifelong, commited relationship. By nature ISFJs are caring, selfless partners and traditional, family-minded individuals.

MOST SATISFIED WITH: A considerate and thoughtful partner who recognises their dedication and ability to nurture others.

To win the heart of an ISFJ, express your gentle, family side. Succeed with flowers, chocolate, long walks and cuddling by the fireplace.
LoveTypes – Alexander Avila

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The ISFJ is generous, accommodating and loyal. ISFJs are dedicated to the task of taking care of their loved ones, and take their family responsibilities seriously. ISFJs often adhere to traditional gender roles, and happily take on the customary household duties. ISFJs can tend to put their partner's needs ahead of their own, and run the risk of being taken advantage of because of their desire to please others. They prize harmony and will often withdraw rather than engage in conflict.
      ISFJs appreciate a considerate and thoughtful partner who recognises their dedication and ability to nurture others.

The ISFJ in relationships: strengths and challenges

Honours commitments and takes relationship roles very seriously

Warm, friendly and affirming by nature

A good listener who wants to please others

Reliable household and money manager with excellent organisational skills

Will make relationship a priority.

Often don't pay enough attention to their own needs

May want to avoid criticism and conflict at all costs, causing resentments to build up inside

May have difficulty branching out into new territory or adjusting to new situations or circumstances.

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George is a male ISFJ

Because he is so loyal, George's biggest problem has been hanging on to relationships long after they are dead. He has felt that he has done all of the sacrificing and most of the work, and this has angered him. He's been assertive at work, but in love he has tended to let his partners take advantage of him. Now he's clearly stating his expectations and hopes. His relationship with his current girlfriend is based on mutual giving and respect. She really appreciates his being hardworking, kind, and faithful.

Leilah is a female ISFJ

Guys often didn't even notice her in high school because she was so shy. In college, she had one long-lasting romance. However, her boyfriend turned out to be abusive.
    Since he would always apologize and she is very trusting and loyal, she stuck by him. The abuse escalated, so she finally left.
    Now she is dating a man who treats her like a queen. She'd like to marry him, but she's afraid he might change afterward..

Male and female ISFJ relationship portraits from Please Understand Me: Temperament, Character, Intelligence by Dr David Keirsey

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  • For the ISFJ, love means security and commitment. In love, ISFJs are people who radiate warmth and good feeling. While ISFJs may not verbalise the deep love or the underlying sense of security and commitment that they feel, their contented facial expressions illustrate their inner thoughts.
          Because they place a high value on marriage and family, they seek out a partner and feel unfulfilled without one. Marriage and family give ISFJs appropriate outlets for their love and opportunities to meet their need to be of service to others. They are willing to give so much and are realistic enough to know that they may not get exactly what they want in return – and generally they accept their fate quietly ...
  • ISFJs are likely to stay in relationships that are not in their best interets because they value commitment and stability more than their individual needs and wants. They may be taken for granted by the very people whom they care and do so much. When ISFJs are scorned, they are likely to be disappointed, angry and bitter. However, they keep their feelings inside and often focus on themselves. After her spouse had left her to marry another, one ISFJ commented, 'It wouldn't mean anything if I let the anger out.' Even though she was in pain, she held back her feelings and tears, responding to a strong need to appear composed to others.
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    References: Murray State University, Profound Knowledge Products, My Personality, Personality Desk, Personality Page and David Markley. Also various works by: Paul Tieger and Barbara Barron-Tieger, Otto Kroeger and Janet M. Thuesen, Florence Littauer, Alexander Avila and Naomi and Alan Quenk.

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